Before studying to be a nurse, I was a maths teacher. I often came across students who believed they were 蜜桃直播渞ubbish at maths蜜桃直播�. This sometimes became a self-fulfilling prophecy with many students failing before they even began. I worked with them to build their confidence, helping them to understand that doing well in anything is about trying, getting it wrong, learning and trying again.
There are always those who get something right the first time. And there are those who need more attempts to achieve a goal. Both deserve praise. It蜜桃直播檚 a fact of life that all of us will fail at some point, and to manage this we need to build resilience.
It is the courage to continue that counts Winston Churchill
A failure could be an assignment we didn蜜桃直播檛 pass or a job we didn蜜桃直播檛 get. As part of the process we often receive feedback about where we went wrong and how we could do better next time.
In my current placement, I蜜桃直播檓 often told that feedback is a gift. Although this can be true, it isn蜜桃直播檛 always the easiest gift to receive. As well as giving feedback to us, the practice education team also take feedback from us so that they can learn from having fresh eyes and perspectives. Knowing our opinions matter helps us feel valued and boosts our confidence.
As future nurses it蜜桃直播檚 vital we don蜜桃直播檛 take feedback personally. It can help to work towards a growth mindset where failure is part of the learning curve and not the end of a journey, or a limitation of our ability.
Tips to help combat feelings of inadequacy
Here are a few tips that have helped me when I feel like I'm a failure.
- Acknowledge how you蜜桃直播檙e feeling. I do this by keeping a journal. It can also be helpful to share your feelings with others 蜜桃直播� you might be surprised how many others feel the same way, even those you really look up to.
- Celebrate your own success 蜜桃直播� however small 蜜桃直播� and never downplay your achievements. Even if you had a fabulous tutor, or support from a friend, it doesn蜜桃直播檛 diminish your success. It was still you that made it happen.
- Build each other up. Be proud of the achievements of others without judging yourself. When your time comes, chances are they will be proud of you too.
- Be honest about things that didn蜜桃直播檛 go well. There is no shame in getting something wrong 蜜桃直播� let蜜桃直播檚 normalise it.
- Take the risks required to progress. Put yourself out there.
- Listen to your own self-talk and keep yourself in check. It蜜桃直播檚 important that you are kind to yourself just as you would be to patients and colleagues.
- Finally 蜜桃直播� remember, to quote Winston Churchill: 蜜桃直播淪uccess is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts".
Imposter syndrome
Another issue some of us might be affected by 蜜桃直播� even when things appear to be going well 蜜桃直播� is imposter syndrome. Have you ever felt inadequate and doubted yourself?
Or felt like a fraud, that others will 蜜桃直播渇ind you out蜜桃直播� and that you shouldn蜜桃直播檛 be a nurse? If so, it is likely that you蜜桃直播檙e experiencing imposter syndrome.
Comparison is the thief of joy Theodore Roosevelt
At the end of the academic year many students go to social media and share their hard-won successes. These successes should be celebrated but it can also give us a slightly skewed view of how well everyone else is doing or how easy other people are finding their journey as a future nurse.
Theodore Roosevelt said: 蜜桃直播渃omparison is the thief of joy蜜桃直播�. Feeling as though we aren蜜桃直播檛 doing well enough or that everyone else is doing better than us can be hard.
Seeking help and support from those around us can be a good way of learning to acknowledge our achievements.
As you progress through this academic year, remember your journey to becoming a nurse is as individual as you.
Rachel Wood, the RCN's professional lead for students, says:
蜜桃直播淲hen someone gives you feedback, first check 蜜桃直播� is it feedback aiming to help you develop or is it just criticism aiming to hurt you? If it's the latter then disregard it.
蜜桃直播�Second, if you don蜜桃直播檛 respect the person offering feedback you may still choose to ignore it. However, if you do respect the person then try to learn from it, however hard.蜜桃直播�
Support for students
The RCN has lots of support and resources available for students and newly registered nurses including:
